Coping with divorce one of the most stressful things anyone can experience in their life. So it comes as no surprise that for the newly divorced those feelings of stress and vulnerability can lead to either creating new bad habits or falling back into old ones. Here are a few bad habits you should try to avoid at all costs after divorce.
1. Fighting with Your Ex
The marriage is over there is no point going over old or new ground move on. If you need to contact each other for any reason and there is the potential for conflict communicate via email or text that way you limit the possibility of escalation. If you have children provide parenting without bringing up the past.
2. Bad Mouthing Your Ex to Your Children
Simply don’t do it! It’s not fair you’re children love both parents and will probably resent being used as an emotional sounding board. The effects of divorce on children can be heartbreaking and many children of divorce will struggle with their adult relationships if your divorce is an emotionally traumatic experience for them. So breaking bad habits now is vital. Children identify with both parents and an attack on their parent is also an attack on them.
3. Substance Abuse
Sad to say many newly divorced turn to alcohol and other substances to pretend they are coping with divorce. Breaking bad habits is hard and you especially have to be aware of this one. A dependency can quickly become established and result in the breakdown of relationships and health.
Neglecting yourself after divorce can take many forms. Not eating healthily or regularly coupled with lack of exercise and or going outside also not washing or dressing properly can affect people physically and mentally leading to apathy. These can all have an effect on other relationships with family and friends and in the workplace.
As hard as it may seem if you want to help yourself be healthy and happy and in a good place, keep these bad habits at arms length. Remember children of divorce follow the examples set to them by their parents so make sure you are being a good role model.