After all the stress and upheaval of the divorce process many people will suffer depression or anxiety to some extent. This is only natural. Usually this misery will pass once a person adjusts to his or our new lifestyle but in sometimes it can turn into a more serious or long term problem. Mild symptoms can often be managed by adopting a positive attitude and making healthy life choices. More moderate or severe symptoms however may require the input of a healthcare professional to make sure the condition does not worsen and can be treated. If any of this applies to you here at a few things you can do to bounce back:
Adopt a Healthy Routine and Lifestyle
Most problems in life can be improved by a healthy diet and exercise routine, and post divorce blues are no exception. Ensure you eat a well-balanced diet with plenty green vegetables and lean meats, as well as ensuring you drink enough water throughout the day which really does help keep your head clear. Try to do at least some exercise everyday. Ideally you should have between three and five trips to the gym each week but even when you cant make it to the gym you can simply go for a relaxing walk, run or swim to make sure you get the strong health benefits that exercise brings. As well as healthy diet and exercise make sure you get at least seven hours sleep per night, preferably eight, and avoid anything you know is bad for you such as too much alcohol.
After a divorce it might seem easier to shut yourself off from the world but after a while this usually leads to feelings of loneliness and isolation which is not good for your long-term health. This does not mean you need to jump into rebound relationships or party every night but that it is a good idea to maintain contact with family and close friends as possible. Usually there will be some people who have supported you through your divorce who will still be there as you are moving on after divorce, otherwise feel free to join the local support groups and meet people also surviving divorce – which can be very comforting.
That is not to say you shouldn’t spend time alone, in fact that is just as important if not more so than spending time with friends. Learn to be comfortable with yourself and not look to others for validation. Especially if you married when young you may not have had enough time to really consider the kind of person you wanted to be. Recovering from divorce means re-evaluating your life decisions, finding way to move forward and live the life you want to live now. This also means that when you are ready to move on you will have a better chance of finding a romantic partner who appreciates you for who you are.
Don’t Hesitate to Get Help
Of course in some cases it might not be possible to court “snap out of it” even when trying the things above. If that happens you should seek professional help as early as you can. Depression is often called the common cold of mental illness, meaning anyone can get it at any time. Just like the cold it can also vary in severity. If you do choose to see a medical doctor or psychologist there are a large number of treatments you can choose from with a very high success rate, so you can be back to your real self before long in most cases. The most important thing is that you seek help, regardless of the treatment option you choose. There is no need to suffer in silence when treatment may be as simple as taking a pill once a day. Alternatively you may choose to talk to a therapist for a few weeks or months until you feel a lot better.