Is it ever right to discuss your divorce on social media? It all depends on the nature of your posts and what they say about you and your views. Social media and relationships can be messy, but the impact of social media on divorce and attempts for an amicable separation can be catastrophic.
First consideration would be who is going to see your posts, family including your children, your ex’s family, friends, friends of friends, work colleagues, your boss, the world at large? As you see the potential is for a large number of people to have a bird’s eye view of the causes of divorce, custody battles and every other detail of what’s happening at a very vulnerable time in your life.
Second consideration is the content of your posts. Is social media the correct forum to discuss your feelings, conflict with your ex, access to children, past misdemeanors or your vulnerability. What is the impact of social media on the people you love?
Taking this into account you need to be aware that your posts may:
- Be seen by someone you don’t necessarily want to know about the divorce at this time.
- Could make you appear in a bad light by coming over as an attention seeker or high maintenance.
- Exacerbate conflict with you ex and his family
- Cause stress to yourself and your family including children
- Leave friends in a position they don’t want to be in.
- Expose causes of divorce and other information that you may regret at a later date.
- Not be seen by your target audience.
That all seems very negative but there are some positives effects of social media. Used sensibly your posts could:
- Give you the forum for updating your status without having to explain to people face to face.
- Allow you to answer questions that arise privately
- Offer the opportunity for support/advise from others who have experienced what you’re going through
- Rekindle old friendships that had drifted.
In the end how or if you use social media in relation to your divorce is up to you. Let discretion and common sense be your watchwords. It may be best that you take time to weigh up the positives and negatives before you leave a post in order to allow yourself to have a positive experience with no regrets.